Tough Love

Day 11 of Whole30 – Day #2 of “The Hardest Days” of Whole30. They say day 10 and 11 are the hardest days because it is statistically proven if you quit your Whole30, it is most likely to be on day 10 or 11. There usually isn’t any type of instant gratification when it comes to Whole30. By day 10 & 11, you are pretty invested, you have been significantly changing your lifestyle for about a week and a half, and many people don’t see or feel results. Many people will even step on the scale during this time and get upset that the number hasn’t gone down, and it may have even went up!

One thing I really love about Whole30 is their concept of tough love. Yes Whole30 is hard, but it is not that hard. To quote their tough love (hyperlinked above),

“We know this is hard.

It may not be as physically challenging as birthing a baby or as emotionally draining as the death of a loved one, but changing the way you think about food is hard.” (Whole30 Tough Love).

We look to food when we are happy and celebrating things, when we are sad and need comfort, when we are exhausted and have had a long day, we believe we need some sort of treat to wind down because we deserve it. How do we start changing the way we think about food? We need to start thinking about it in a different way other than just a way to cope with our emotions or the way we feel. I’m not saying to not enjoy and celebrate the food your eating, but to come up with other ways to cope with your emotions.

Yesterday, I had a rough day. I had a long day at work, and then was told some troubling news about my Grandfather. All I wanted to really do is to sit down and have a glass of wine. What I did instead? I enlisted help from my friends and had a friend come over, talk, and hang out. Talking about the things I was dealing with provided me an outlet to process my emotions, rather than eating them.

When we are seeking comfort or relaxation, we need to find a different way to cope rather than taking the tub of cookies and cream ice cream out of the freezer. The way I decided to cope last night was not only keeping me Whole30 compliant, but it was a way for me to talk through and process how I feel. What if we could remove food from the way we deal with our emotions, and then cope with them in a positive way?

This is a big reason why Whole30 says it can change your life. You are changing your relationship with food. You’re breaking your emotional barriers/ties/associations with food. Something I’m actually very excited about is a new purchase. This purchase will elevate a way I cope with emotions and relax. I purchased a bath “caddy” where I can put a book/candle/La Croix/whatever I want to use as I “treat my self” to some relaxation. I plan on using it tonight. If you’re interested, here’s the one I bought (please know this is not an affiliate link, I do not retain any kickback from posting this). However when I opened it up last night, I can attest to the high quality of the material.

I know there’s a wine glass holder, and trust me, I’ll definitely be putting a wine glass in there tonight. However, I will be filling it with bubbly water. I will still feel like I’m “treating” myself because I am using a fancy glass.

SIDE BAR – I also just purchased a yearly subscription to Headspace, which is a guided meditation app. Day 2 of my guided meditation, and it is going well. I’ll be using this app when I am relaxing in the tub tonight for sure. I try to meditate in the morning after I workout. Here’s what today’s meditation left me with:

I think meditation will really help once I start my nutrition prep for my bodybuilding show. Tough love and meditation, that is what will get me though. Oh, and I get by with a little help from my friends. Happy Friday everyone!

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